dry wedding / no alcohol
alcohol is nice, and it would be fun to pop a bottle with our guests after the wedding in the subsequent few weeks as we work through paperwork and pretend we can live out the american dream! however, we will not be offering alcohol at our wedding. this is a personal choice requested by both rowan and et, so please respect it! if you bring your own alcohol, we will ask you to leave.
queer space
to all of our guests: et and rowan are both queer people who have dealt with misgendering since coming out and continue to experience anti-queer treatment in public to this day. our wedding should not be a place where we have to worry about this; nor do we want to worry about our friends and family being alienated. we will offer nametags, but please remember that you may always ask someone's pronouns. please don't joke about us or our queer family!